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Seeking wings, my thoughts about recovery
Jun. 8th, 2011 10:30 amWhen I see things about ED recovery, often, I think a lot of it is looking at things in a wrong way, that tries to deny something that the person with ED needs. It's different for everyone, but, most people with ED thinks, it's not about weights, fat, thin, or pretty, but, it is about being pure, light and perfect. Often, recovery things are trying to talk you out of the belief to be perfect, saying... nobody can be perfect. Accept your self as it is.
Because I am a very spiritual person (I am Hermetic), this is against my traditions, and, it is against the hearts and minds of many people with ED who really feel from an early age... that they want to be pure. I think, this is a responding to something deep in the soul and should not be ignored! Pretending that "you don't really want to be pure" is a way to fail in recovery... trying to ignore what your heart and mind is really saying. And, it can feel bad when people say to you, "you need to be normal" when you feel you are anything BUT normal. When they say, "you need to take away this thing that helps you cope", when you have no other thing to look at to cope.
You don't have to give up being pure if you want to recover. In fact... if you recover... you can probably have more energy to put into a life that will really make you pure. ED feels like it makes you pure, but, there is a better way to do it I think. It's like, alcohol feels like it makes you happy, but, it doesn't really.
And, you don't have to take away your only thing for coping... instead of just quitting and going into the naked world all alone... you can move to a different way of coping, slow enough that you never feel you lose anything. It's like rolling from one pillow to the other, instead of, rolling off a bed and falling on the floor. You can have supports under you, all the way.
So, these are my ideas, for a different way of looking at recovery.
( Seeking wings )
Because I am a very spiritual person (I am Hermetic), this is against my traditions, and, it is against the hearts and minds of many people with ED who really feel from an early age... that they want to be pure. I think, this is a responding to something deep in the soul and should not be ignored! Pretending that "you don't really want to be pure" is a way to fail in recovery... trying to ignore what your heart and mind is really saying. And, it can feel bad when people say to you, "you need to be normal" when you feel you are anything BUT normal. When they say, "you need to take away this thing that helps you cope", when you have no other thing to look at to cope.
You don't have to give up being pure if you want to recover. In fact... if you recover... you can probably have more energy to put into a life that will really make you pure. ED feels like it makes you pure, but, there is a better way to do it I think. It's like, alcohol feels like it makes you happy, but, it doesn't really.
And, you don't have to take away your only thing for coping... instead of just quitting and going into the naked world all alone... you can move to a different way of coping, slow enough that you never feel you lose anything. It's like rolling from one pillow to the other, instead of, rolling off a bed and falling on the floor. You can have supports under you, all the way.
So, these are my ideas, for a different way of looking at recovery.
( Seeking wings )
